You can call it good luck, or cause and effect, or whatever you want. But you know that some people have more good things happen in their lives, and more happy surprises. What you may not know is that there are things you can do to be more like them and so be luckier yourself. Here are a few tips to get you started.
Don't Take Advice From Your Fears
Letting fear make decisions is a bad habit that is sure to get in the way of having more luck in your life. Acting from fear also sabotages your self-growth. Did you know that Johnny Carson had stage-fright every night before he went on the air? He stepped out there anyhow, and enjoyed doing the Tonight Show for decades. Fear is just a feeling. Move forward despite it.
In The Secret Life of Bees, by Sue Monk, a teenager of 14, lies in her bed at night, as bees come through her walls. Bees swarm all around her as she lays motionless so as to avoid being stung. Yet when she calls someone else to witness the bees – nothing is there.
Have you ever laid in bed, and been surrounded by a swarm of thoughts and worries? Money, relationships, tasks, words, what I should have said, what I wish I hadn’t said, what I totally neglected to do or say…. all swarming around – keeping you from sleep.
Perhaps you pull the covers over your head and try to escape by hiding, by sleeping, by sinking into the unconscious to escape the attack. Like the bees – are these thoughts really there?
In reality – nothing was in your room. Worries ONLY exist within you. Most people surround themselves by worries – regretting the past and fearful of the future. There is good news. You can change –
if you can imagine problems, you can imagine solutions.
Do you wish you were more creative but don't know where to start? Many of us wish we were more creative in our lives. How can we become more creative if we think we have lost the spark?
For one person, being more creative may mean they wish they could become a painter, musician, writer, dancer or some other sort of performing artist.
However, this is not a practical life style for everyone. Not everyone is going to find it realistic to embrace a life that is totally creative and artistic to the core.
Have you ever wondered why some people seem driven to make a lot of money while others honestly seem to be satisfied with just "getting by?"
Have you known people who do so much for others they become enablers and you think that’s not a good thing? Or do you know people who seem so immersed in their own needs they don’t do enough to help others?
If another person’s beliefs and attitudes are diametrically opposed to yours, you’ll have problems relating to that person and may have serious conflict because of your differences. Basically, the greater the gap between your values and someone else’s, the more difficulty you’ll have with that person.
Creativity is inventing, experimenting,
growing, taking risks, breaking rules,
making mistakes, and having fun.
~ Mary Lou Cook ~
An excellent quality you'll want to develop in yourself, if you want to experience more fulfillment in life, is the willingness or courage to experiment.
It is one of the key qualities of highly creative people.
In fact, without this quality, many inventions, creative works, and more would have never materialized. They would have just stayed ideas in people's minds.
Many of our problems would be resolved if we just formed the right habits and stuck to them. However, we do not bring all of who we are to help us create new habits and we end up abandoning the very habits that we know would make us happier.
As you go about the project of reinventing your life, one key factor is to develop new habits and shed the old ones that no longer serve you.
It is difficult to let go of an old habit unless you replace it with a new habit. Get your emotions involved in creating a new habit and you will have a much stronger chance of making that habit fully ingrained in your life.
I've learned a secret about what's going on 99% of the time when someone is not giving you the respect, admiration, or love you want.
It's a secret that probably not in 1 in 1,000 people will ever figure out on their own. Think about the last time you felt unappreciated at home or work.
Didn't at least part of your distress stem from the fact that you had no idea why this person wasn't responding to you? I think the REASON why we don't figure out the secret to making ourselves irresistible is that it's the opposite of what we've been taught about relationships.
Let me explain ...
Most of us are taught that when a relationship is struggling, we should be extra nice, thoughtful, and giving. These are wonderful qualities, and we should all strive to have them.
Because of insecurity, thousands of individuals often wallow in depression. In this state of insecurity, you might find it difficult to concentrate or focus on or allow yourself to enjoy feelings of achievement as emotions of self-judgment then emerge.
Negative sentiments such as "why push ahead if I never get anywhere, anyway?" shows low self esteem and lack of self confidence. Talking to yourself in a hard way brings forth unhealthy and defeating attitude.
When you begin to ignore the positive or optimistic feelings linked with achievement, it is so easy to sway back into negative self-talk and damage your success.
When you punish or chastise yourself by focusing on past failures rather than past accomplishments, it keeps you in the gloom of nothingness and uncertainty where there is no opportunity for aiming high.
A long time ago a shopkeeper was opening a package of merchandise from England. He always admired the efficient way the British pack things as it was done with meticulous care.
When he opened it, there was a card on top. It said, "Expect a Miracle". He almost threw it in the trash and thought, "What does that mean? How did that get there?" but stuffed it into his shirt pocket.
That night he was emptying his pockets and showed it to his wife, "Look at this, 'Expect a Miracle'. What is that supposed to mean?"
"Maybe that is what we need", she said. "Our problems seem so overwhelming. Wonder what would happen if started expecting great things instead of always expecting the worst? Could miracles take place?"
What is it you want out of life? Once you decide what it is you want to do and where you want to be, you then must realize what you have to do to change your thinking to achieve these desires. When we were babies, we knew exactly what we wanted. We cried loudly with no inhabitions holding back until we got what we wanted.
As we got older, we were clear about what we wanted and headed straight toward it with no fear. Along the way, we would hear someone say, don’t do this or that and as we got older the negative words would be more intense. As we go thru our lives, we somehow get stuck trying to figure out what other people want us to do. As a result we now do a lot of things we don’t want to do but what pleases others.
So how do we reclaim ourselves and our true desires? How do we get back what we really want with no fear, shame or inhabitions? How do we reconnect with our real passion. We start on the smallest level by honoring our preferences in every situation, no matter how large or small. Don’t think of them as petty, they might be inconsequential to someone else, but they are not to you.
Motivating yourself to excel at your job or to be an example to your employees, should not be something you do only when the spirit moves you. It’s an ongoing process that should include every facet of your business life. This means your mental attitude, physical well-being and appearance, work atmosphere, your interaction with others (clients and employees alike), and your off-the-job environment.
Motivational experts get paid big bucks to tell professionals, striving for success, that they must constantly examine these factors. How do you do that? Follow the 5 tips that follow, and watch the changes.
1. Maintain a Positive Attitude
Let’s realize that life is only 10% of what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. We’re responsible for our own actions and attitudes, and changing them when appropriate. When you’re around people/things that are uplifting and positive, you feel that way.
Do you always complete the task at hand before moving on to the next one? Further more what’s the criteria you use to choose your next task? Lot’s of people start something then part way through either get bored or convince themselves it’s the right time to begin something else.
Why this is a problem!
It’s a problem because if you do it often enough you will have started several tasks and finished none which will eventually lead to a feeling of overwhelm as deadlines for the unfinished tasks loom.
It’s also a problem because what you are choosing to do may not be the most important thing requiring your attention. Therefore it does not represent the best use of your time. Things that grab your attention tend to be urgent but not necessarily important.
Your mind has two parts: the Conscious Mind and the Subconscious Mind. Together these two parts control all of your actions and ultimately the results you have in your life. As we explore each area of your mind, understand that while these ideas may seem simple and elementary, they have a wide reaching and profound affect on your life. They control every aspect of what makes you who you are and will continue to control everything in your life until the day you die.
The Conscious Mind
The Conscious Mind is where you do all your day to day thinking. This is where you make decisions and where you primarily operate from in normal life. When you hold a conversation or watch a t.v. program you are using your conscious mind. Both the conscious mind and the subconscious mind think in pictures. If you think about your family members a picture of them will flash on the movie screen of your conscious mind.
In modern times most people at the age of 1 to 25 years, are healthy and very active from 26 to 40 years they become tired, from 41 years up to the age of 80 they become sick, and might have age related eseases such as Blood Pressure, diabetes, gout, cancer, poor eye sight, back ache and they die at this age of 80 years.
Can this situation be changed? The answer is yes in fact any person can live up to 100 years and above with better health, the secret behind the healthy lifestyle is:
Nutrition
Your health is determined by the type of food you eat.The secret to healthier life is to eat a lot of fresh and natural food, these include, fruits and vegetables, the fruits and vegetables takes care of your imunity, look of your skin, help the function of your bowels and enable you to avoid conticipation.
Do you like you? If you do not like yourself, who and what do you like and why do you like it. Here is a crazy question. If you could be any, one you wanted to be who would you be? These are just a few questions please feel free to think about these in your share time.
Share time this is one of the more over used words in the English language. The one thing on this green earth that we have the lease of is time. Okay lets' get back to the original question. Are you happy, I have found that more of us are not happy.
In fact, people are very unhappy. Most people are just wasting time doing the things that they believe the world and/or those around them want them to do. If that, is the way that you are living your life is it worth it.
Building confidence whether in an individual or team situation can greatly impact the outcome of a situation or even the success of a respective venture. If a member of your team is lacking in confidence then it is your responsibility to ensure that they are encouraged and lifted up to maximum performance and greater impact within communicative and people based circumstances.
Often all it takes is a little reminder of the skills and awards which we are all prone to over our lifetimes. Encouragement is a wonderful tool on boosting confidence of your self or someone else. A compliment not on their appearance but skills and worth can be worth more than you may know to someone lacking in confidence. Make note of points which you can comment on so that your team and friends always know that they are important and respected.
One of the top complaints or obstacles that entrepreneurs have is "I don't have enough time."
Think about that for a moment
Does that describe you? Do you have too much on your plate and not enough time?
Do you often find yourself dreaming, "If only I had more time?"
Well, you've probably heard the saying that we all have the same amount of time per day. It's true isn't it? We all have the same 24 hours a day and 365 days a year. How is it that some people seem to get so much done and others are struggling just to keep up?
Thinking that you can have MORE time is a major part of the problem.
There's nowhere to purchase MORE time. You have all the time that's available to you until your time is up - it's really about how you can more effectively choose where to invest your time.
Did you ever stop to think what an important part your thoughts, I mean real concentrated thoughts, play in your life?
The ability to concentrate all your attention is so important, no matter what task or job you have to get done… as nothing great or significant can be accomplished without proper effort and concentration.
And almost all of us have some sort of difficulty in the concentration of our attention.
Workers in business and industry, students in high school and college, and even professors in universities, complain of the same difficulty.
How can we preserve our inspiration In this planet you have to be taught to stimulate manually There are many things in the life that can grounds you to lose your inspiration It is our job to be taught to identify anything that grounds us to lose our inspiration an extra time for us, to stay provoked we must be taught to draw on our own inside reasons.
One way to stay provoked is to be taught to send time with you. It is not necessary to for all time have citizens about to stimulate that kind of inspiration is only impermanent Most of our inspiration that comes from outside sources will never last. When we take to time to get to know us, we will mostly find a nice person. We are provoked be grounds we be taught to love who we are and the way we are.
"What Makes Me A Beauty Expert?"
I didn't choose to be a Beauty Expert. It chose me. I still don't know why it chose me, lately I've felt its part of my purpose and I feel so very blessed for it and this powerful thing called destiny.
I have lived my whole life seeking perfection. I wanted to look good but at the same time, I never quite understood how to accept myself.
I went to Beauty College to be an Aesthetician after high school in hopes of learning the secrets to preserve my youth. I studied the Aesthetician course for skin care. My studies included basic skin care with the understanding of how ingredients in products affect the skin, skin waxing and make-up application.
I learned how to apply foundation, eyeliner, eyelashes, and contour the eyes with shadow and the cheeks with blush, using the appropriate cosmetic utensils. I lived make-up and all things skin. I guess I was a little obsessed back then.
